The Problem with not Wanting to “Bother” a Grieving Friend

It can be quite easy when a close friend is grieving to say to yourself, “I don’t want to bother her.” To send flowers or drop a meal off without seeing her.

But, what if everyone does that because no one wants to bother her? Then, who is sitting with her in her grief? Who is giving her space to talk about the one she has loved for so long but lost?

To keep the person alive in her heart, it helps to talk about him.

To not feel alone.

To know people loved him dearly, and love her also.

To know that they care.

Not all people will want someone there, and I’m not saying to overstay your welcome. But, I think it can be helpful and comforting to give your friend a hug, to talk about how much you loved the person and to simply ask if they’d like you to stay or want some time alone.

She might want to be alone or she might want to talk with you or share stories or sit quietly with you for a while.

Everyone is so different, so we need to find out what they want – the best way to do that? To ask them.

It might help her to spend some time with you so she doesn’t feel alone in her grief.

Even if it’s just a few minutes – the hug of someone close to you makes you feel like you’re walking this road with friends who love you and it just makes the burden a bit lighter.

If you’re not sure if you should call or text because you don’t want to bother the person – call or text. Just telling them you love them and are thinking about them or praying for them. If they don’t want to be bothered, they won’t answer the phone.

But, they will know that someone cared so much for them because they reached out. ❤

Lord, help us love one another deeply by considering their interests. Give us the wisdom to know how to be there for those we love who are hurting so they know we are with them and that you are with them also. In Jesus’ Name, amen.

“Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2

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Mama, the mess won’t last forever

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Beautiful Hearted Women of the Bible

My Mother-Daughter Devotional launches October 5th!

I’m really excited to do some questions/prayers in the coming weeks about these beautiful hearted women to help us focus more on the Lord and draw our hearts close to Jesus.

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Martha is one of my favorite women in the Bible. When her brother died, do you know what she did?

She didn’t hide her pain from Jesus, she didn’t pretend to have it all together, she didn’t reject Jesus. Mary shared her honest thoughts with him.

Standing right there in front of Jesus, the King of the world, God incarnate, she opened her heart of confusion and pain to him.

John 11 tells us, “When Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went out to meet him, but Mary stayed at home.

‘Lord,’ Martha said to Jesus, ‘If you had been here, my brother would not have died. But I know that even now God will give you whatever you ask.’

Not only did she share her pain and confusion with Jesus, but she still believed. What a courageous, faithful woman. She still believed. After all that heartache and confusion. She made a choice to believe. Isn’t that beautiful?

“Then Jesus said to her, ‘Your brother will rise again.’ Martha answered, ‘I know he will rise again in the resurrection at the last day.’

Jesus said to her, ‘I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die; and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. Do you believe this?

’Martha, grieving her brother, answered him. ‘Yes, Lord,’ she replied, ‘I believe that you are the Messiah, the Son of God, who is to come into the world.’

Wow. She believed in the midst of her heartache.

While Jesus said he would heal Lazarus, she hadn’t seen it yet, and she still was grieving her brother, with Jesus having wept right by her side.

Yet, she chose to believe. Beautiful.

Let it be said of us, that in our pain, heartache, confusion, we say, ‘Yes, Jesus. We believe.”

Just like Martha did.

After 8 months, my dad is home!!!!!!

After 8.5 months of being in the hospital from covid, my dad is finally home!!!!!!!!! 

Being told several times from doctors over the past year that he had hours to live, and then him pulling through, makes all of this such a miracle. We have all been through so much, especially my dad, but He. Is. Home. 

To be able to facetime my dad this morning At. Their. House. with mom sitting next to him Was. Amazing. I asked him how it felt to be sitting right next to mom at home and he said, “Wonderful.”

Yesterday morning before my dad came home, his iPhone stopped working. So, once he arrived home, after all this time, and they opened the ambulance doors, the first thing he said after my brother Brett said, “Welcome home, Dad!”, was, “Brett, did you get my iPhone working?” while throwing his hands up in the air. Haha! That’s so my dad with getting right to the point. 

The second he got out of the ambulance and saw his waterfall, the trees, and his flowers, a breeze washed over his face after 8 months of being inside the hospital. He closed his eyes, took it all in, and said, “Incredible.” The simple things.

As they wheeled him by his roses and his waterfall, in typical dad fashion, he wanted to make sure the transporters saw the waterfall and liked it. (: 

Getting to come into his home, his family room, by his fireplace, with so many windows and trees, and the beauty of just being home with mom. What a gift. We’re so grateful to the Lord for bringing him home.

Please be praying for this big transition to go well, for the rest of the nurse slots to get filled (especially night nurses!), and for my dad to make a lot of progress quickly. Thank you to all of you who have been praying, continue to pray, and are walking with us. It means the world. 

This has been a tough road, and we know there are a lot of things that will be overwhelming and great and tough now too, but to have him home. There’s nothing like it. There’s no place like home.

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