3 Life-Changing Books to Read to our Kids

These are three life-changing books to read to our kids. I read these to my nine-year-olds and they loved them.




“The Lord says,

‘Forget what happened before.
    Do not think about the past.
Look at the new thing I am going to do.
    It is already happening. Don’t you see it?
I will make a road in the desert.
    I will make rivers in the dry land.'”

Isaiah 43:18-19

Great News For Us Parents…

Great news for us parents… in Luke 18, the one who was justified and lifted up by Jesus was the one who admitted he wasn’t perfect.

Isn’t that awesome? We don’t serve a God who tells us to show off in our parenting and get all our ducks in a row and have everything nailed down precisely and perfectly before the Lord meets us and connects with us. Nope.

We serve a God who gets that we are flawed and human and imperfect, and need Him. A God who longs for us to simple come to him to find forgiveness, refreshment, restoration.

That doesn’t mean that we get a free pass to not care and not try to be the best parents we can be, but it does mean as we try our best to love the Lord and our kids, that Jesus will

pick us up when we fall,

give us strength when we feel rung out,

refresh us when we are weary,

forgive us when we fail,

and guide us when we feel lost.

When we fail in parenting, in life, remember that THAT is why Jesus came – to cover our imperfections in his love, his grace, his forgiveness, his perfection.

We simply need Him.

The Pharisee, the one who showed off, who had it all figured out, who bragged to everyone else about having it all together, was actually Not the one who Jesus said was justified before God.

I love Jesus’ thoughts on the man who humbled himself and desperately cried, “God have mercy on me, a sinner.” Jesus said, “I tell you that this man, rather than the other, went home justified before God. For all those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.”

Lord, we need you. When we are so imperfect in parenting our kids, please forgive us, lead us, and give us your wisdom. When we feel self-righteous or above others, please forgive us. In humility, we come before you Lord – we are SO in need of You. Have mercy on us and show us your grace. Please uplift us as we parent, love, and guide our children. In Jesus’ Name, amen.





On National “Single Parent Day”, let’s take a minute to pray for these parents and to help in a simple way like bringing a meal, helping out with carpooling, a play date, or asking how we can help.

Let’s Teach Our Boys…

Remember the “check this box if you like me” love notes from elementary school?

Well, my friend’s son received a number of love notes several days in a row from a girl in his class. She wanted to know if he had a “crush” on her too. He told his mom that he was going to ignore the notes so he wouldn’t hurt her feelings and so she would stop. His mom said that would just make her like him more – that the right and kind thing to do was to be straight-forward with her and to tell her directly that he didn’t like her, but that they could be friends.

So, he did. Now she knows, and he hasn’t received any more love notes from her. (:

How do they learn what being respectful and kind means if we don’t teach them?

We have awesome teaching opportunities in moments like these to share with our boys what it looks like to be courageous, kind, and respectful to girls right now, so when they grow up, they will know how to be men who are straight-forward, respectful, and kind as well.



Getting my covid vaccine was tough. Not the actual shot, but just going to get it.

Thinking, if my dad had been able to get the vaccine, maybe he wouldn’t be in the ICU as he has been for three months.

I waited in line for the shot, tears becoming very clear in my eyes as I watched people congratulate each other on getting the vaccine. I am genuinely happy for each and every person that can get it. I’m thankful I was able to get it since I substitute teach at my kids’ school. But my heart is also so broken inside as I think, what if my dad had gotten it. This has just been so hard, but I’m still praying for a Miracle for my dad.

I’m not sure why I’m writing this, but maybe just to say if you’re one of those people who also has a broken heart and find yourself with tears falling regularly, I feel you. I get you. I understand. I can relate. It hurts. So deeply.

Jesus, would you lift up each of us who are broken-hearted inside. Jesus, would you be with our loved ones and heal them. Lord, help us look to you. This is so hard, Lord. We love you. In Jesus’ name, amen.“

The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Psalm 34:18


Noticing Ordinary Moments

Because I can easily overlook the beauty of ordinary moments, I’ve tried going out of my way to notice them more.

My kids have been going to school four days a week with Friday being a virtual day. I captured this sweet moment the other day. I easily could have missed it, but I’m trying to notice them more. 

I think it’s a discipline to practice: noticing ordinary moments – taking mental snapshots, and giving thanks to the Lord for them. Psalm 69 says, I will glorify Him with thanksgiving. 

We glorify the Lord when we give thanks. 

In Luke 17, Jesus healed ten men of leprosy. He was pleased by the one man who came back to praise and thank him. But, Jesus asked, “Were not all ten cleansed? Where are the other nine? Then he said to him, “Rise and go; your faith has made you well.”

In a culture that wants more, more, more, I think we can easily underestimate the beauty and bliss of simple, ordinary, moments.

What are the sweet, ordinary moments all around you that are easy to miss? 

What can you see and notice that you didn’t before? 

What moments can you thank Jesus for that are right in front of you?

Lord, when we want to escape the mundane, the ordinary, and have a woe is me attitude, help us to have eyes to see the beauty in the ordinary. Help us to not need more, but to find joy in You, what is, and to give thanks for it. In Jesus’ name, amen. 



Sometimes the people who are helping us through hard times get overlooked – all the sacrifices they make to help us get through that tough time so we are able to do what we need to do. 

This past few months while my dad has been going through everything, my husband has been so incredibly supportive and my kids have been so helpful and understanding. Always encouraging, hoping, and praying with me.

On my many trips to Atlanta, my husband has watched the kids, taken off work, worked from home when he can, made meals, kept up with the day-to-day things. 

It’s easy to overlook what the people around us do during times like these, but I want to recognize each of you now. Thank you to each of you who make sacrifices every day to love the people closest to you well. 
You’re not overlooked. We see you. The Lord sees you. And we are so grateful for you. ️

“My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you.” Jesus


Practical Tips on Disciplining Toddlers

When my triplets were in the toddler stage, whew, you can imagine. I learned a whole lot through experience, successes and mess-ups, and books like “Raising Great Kids” and “Boundaries with Kids”. I hope these nuggets I’ve shared offer some insight and encouragement as you parent your precious little ones who are at such a pivotal stage of learning and growing. 

“The Terrible Twos” When my triplets were two, it was a sweet stage but also very challenging and tiring because of having to enforce boundaries and follow-through again and again. By the time they were three it got a lot better. Yes, our kids still challenged us some, but not nearly as much as when they were two because they knew expectations and consequences. I know for some, three-years old is more challenging than two-years old. Regardless, our aim should be for our kids to learn how to follow expectations in these toddler years.

One of the jobs for kids is to see how much they can get away with – to push boundaries – all kids do that and it is very normal. But how it’s handled at this stage will affect a child’s behavior later on.

How Kids Learn in the Toddler Stage Kids in this stage don’t learn simply from reasoning with them and us getting upset if they do something wrong. If we get mad at them, they might learn in the short-term because they’re afraid, but not in the long-term. We want them to gain wisdom in decision making for the long run. And it’s our responsibility to teach them. 

Explaining things can be helpful, but at this age, kids learn mostly from consequences. A parent can try to reason all day long with a two- or three-year old, or have a fussy and disappointed voice at their behavior and share why they shouldn’t do a particular thing, but what registers most is a simple consequence- THIS PART IS IMPORTANT- NOT a warning of a consequence, but just giving a consequence. Yes, we all give warnings sometimes when we’re just too tired and when we think our kids just need grace and to be redirected. But, it is really important at that age to be consistent with what happens if your child disobeys.

Disrespect is a really good umbrella rule. When your child knows he needs to show respect, then you can give consequences when he doesn’t show respect. Many behaviors fall under this one rule: how they treat others, how they speak to you, listening to you, and many others.

First, Explain to your Child What Behavior is Expected Have a simple conversation with your child to share expectations like this: “You need to show us respect by doing what we ask you to do right away. That shows respect. If you don’t listen to us then you will get a consequence.” 

This will help you avoid having to ask your child time and time again to do something. For example, If your child is hitting something you don’t want her to, and you tell her to stop, but she keeps doing it and gets no consequence and just a warning, she learns that she doesn’t have to listen the first time and will see how many times she can get away with that behavior before getting a consequence. 

That’s just the way kids are wired. It’s our responsibility to teach them that there are consequences for their actions so we can help them mature and grow into responsible kids and then responsible adults.

Then, get ready, your child will test you. The next time he doesn’t do what you ask him to do the first time, give him a timeout. Don’t ask him, “Do you want a timeout?”That might stop him in the moment, but it just perpetuates the problem and he learns he doesn’t need to listen right away. It will be easier for you in the moment, but so much harder in the long run.

Practical Steps with a Timeout When you ask your child to stop doing something and she doesn’t, she is not being respectful which is breaking the “Be Respectful rule” so she gets a timeout. A good rule of thumb is to give your child one minute for each year of her age. So, if your child is two, she would get two minutes. 

If your child is not staying in timeout, he can learn to. Again, you just need to be consistent – when he gets out, put him back in timeout and let him know you’re starting the timer over every time he leaves timeout. You might have to keep bringing him back to timeout over and over, but if you stick with it, he will eventually learn he has to stay there. 

It also helps to have the same spot (without toys) for timeout to create consistency. If you’re at a friend’s house, find a space away from other kids where he can have a timeout. 

He might scream and cry in the timeouts and throw a fit, but that’s okay. He’s fine. He’s just sitting in a space for a few minutes. It hurts our kids more in the long run if they don’t have consequences. Eventually, he’ll learn that acting out doesn’t give him a pass for missing time out. 

If you tell him he has a time out, but then change your mind because he’s fussing, the next time, he’ll scream that much longer. If you follow through and he still gets a timeout even after having a fit, he will eventually learn he has to stay there and the fits will lessen. He’ll also learn that a particular behavior is not acceptable, and you should see that behavior improve.

Depending on how lenient you’ve been when your child disobeys, she might test you a million times to see if you will actually follow through. Most kids will. For several weeks it will probably be really hard, but it will pay off ten-fold after that. It’s hard work, but it will be worth it. 

What to Say After the Timeout is Over After the timeout, explain sternly and calmly, “You were in timeout because I asked you to stop and you didn’t. Next time when I say stop, you need to stop. I love you.” 

Keep it simple. And, you don’t need to show disappointment and anger – I know we’re human, but if we can remain calm, but stern, showing that we’re the parents and are in charge, they’ll know that they’re not rattling us, and it will actually make them feel more secure. Even though they don’t show it or know it, kids long for boundaries and consistency because it provides security and gives them more confidence.

The Law of Sowing & Reaping If your child doesn’t have consistent consequences and doesn’t listen now, when she gets older it will be a lot more difficult. If you teach her to respect you now, it will come far more naturally when she’s older. It doesn’t mean your kids won’t challenge you – they will – but it will be less, and they’ll know a consequence will follow so they’ll think twice before doing it. 

Grasping this concept will help our kids understand The Law of Sowing and Reaping: simply that you reap what you sow. 

When Your Child DOES Show Respect When your child does show respect and listen the first time you ask him to do something, point it out and CELEBRATE that big time. That is a great way for your child to learn what it looks like to be respectful. For example, you could say, “I love the way you asked so nicely for dinner,” or “That is so kind how you shared with your friend.” Those statements are incentive for your child to repeat the good behavior. 

You can read my post about encouraging your child to listen the first time with positive reinforcement like a marble jar on my blog, – just type in “the first time” in the search box.

When to Use Correction & Redirection Instead of Consequences There are times your child will just need correction and redirection – after all, they are learning. If he doesn’t know a particular behavior and what’s expected, it’s not fair to give a consequence. Make sure he first understands what is expected. 

Redirection can also be helpful when your child says something in a disrespectful way. If your child is two or three, he’s probably not aware he’s speaking rudely. Or, if he hasn’t been corrected when he speaks that way, it’s probably just a habit now. Your child needs to learn the right way to speak to you and others consistently to break that habit. Don’t accept anything less and it will improve. 

If you expect your child to speak respectfully now and stay consistent with it, he will be more likely to speak respectfully when he’s older. I know the redirecting can be tiring, but again, it will pay off so much later and will only help him in home, school, life because you’re training him in what’s acceptable.

A Behavior That Needs Redirection For example, if your child wants something and says, “Give it to me now,” I wouldn’t give him a timeout because you don’t want to go timeout crazy – that would exhaust him and at that age, sometimes they just need to be redirected with some things they’re still learning. I’d just calmly say, “How do you ask for that nicely?” Then, don’t give him what it is he wants until he asks nicely. He’ll learn. Quickly. The Law of Sowing and Reaping is in effect here because the natural consequence is not being able to have the item he wants until he asks nicely. You’re giving him a chance to learn and correct himself. Natural consequences are very effective. 

A Behavior That Needs a Consequence On the other hand, if he plays roughly with banging something and you have already asked him to stop but he keeps doing it, he knows that’s wrong. Take the item away and then tell him, “You didn’t listen when I asked you to stop so you will lose the toy during timeout. When I ask you to stop, you need to stop. That’s respectful. I love you.” 

Respect is one of the most important things our children need to learn as they grow up.

Then after the timeout, give him the toy again to see if he handles it well and doesn’t bang it. If he bangs it again, DO NOT warn him that you’ll take it away if he does it again. You already told him that. Just take the toy away for the whole day and give him another timeout for disrespecting you by not listening. Let him know he has a timeout for not listening when you asked him to not bang the toy. 

After the timeout, let him know he lost the toy for the whole day for not listening, but that he can try and play with it again tomorrow. Tell him again that he needs to respect you by listening to what you ask him to do and doing it right away. Then, tell him you love him, and move on. Try your best to catch him soon listening the first time so you can give him some encouragement. 

When Our Kids Are Just Tired Sometimes our kids are just plain tired and need a rest and that’s why they’re misbehaving. When my kids were this age, if they seemed worn out, I tried to recognize that and would just read them a book to calm them or let them nap. 

Parenting with Grace & Truth Parenting can be really hard because it’s not an exact formula. But, if we can try our best to parent our kids with both grace and truth, that will help them, not only now, but later on as well. We want our kids to learn the Law of Sowing and Reaping when they’re in our homes so they don’t have to learn it the first time from others. 

I’m learning more about parenting every single day and I still have much to learn. But, I hope this post has offered you some practical tips and ideas. If so, that would be great if you’d share it with others.

Lastly, remember that every single child at this stage challenges in some way – it’s normal. It’s how we respond and what we do about it that affects our children’s behavior going forward.

We’re all in this together. You can do this!