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These Kinds of Moments are Impactful to our Children.


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I drove up to a store with my daughter five minutes before it opened. We were in a rush that day so we got there early.

But when it was time to open, the store was still locked. The employee pulled into the parking lot late, and walked toward the store. I asked her if she was opening now, and she said pretty rudely that she wouldn’t open for a while.

I was frustrated, but I stopped myself. My daughter and I talked about how maybe the woman had had a rough morning. How you never know what people are going through. Then, we prayed for her (I don’t always react that way!).

No, it doesn’t give people the right to act any way they want. But, it does make me want to pause and consider that we have no clue what that person is going through and to ask ourselves, Is it better to respond rudely, or to respond with blessing?

These kind of moments are impactful to our children. They notice.

My dad, my hero, has been in the ICU for a month now after getting Covid. He’s one of the strongest people I know. But, it’s been rough. I’m praying Jesus’ healing hand on him and for others going through this. 

Some people don’t know what I’m going through right now, but I’m sure I’ve had shorter reactions and been more emotional than normal. 

Years ago when I was 29-weeks pregnant, my husband had to go on a short work trip while my mom was visiting. The doctors said it was fine since I wasn’t due for a while. But after he flew out, I went into labor. He had three cancelled flights trying to make it back to me before my emergency C-section at 7:20pm. He finally got on a flight, but at 7:20pm while the flight attendant was asking him if he wanted Biscoff cookies, I was having our triplets. She had no idea.

We just don’t know what’s happening in others’ lives when we come across them. 

You’ve had your own times when your heart was bursting within, but people didn’t know what you were going through, and maybe your words came out shorter than normal.

I know it doesn’t mean that people can act any way they want, and I know that some people are rude no matter what they’re going through. But, as Jesus followers, we are called to repay with blessing. 

It doesn’t mean that will be our first instinct, but as we pray, the Holy Spirit will move in a powerful way and change our hearts so they become more like His. 

That is one way to make change for the Lord, one moment at a time.

Oh, Lord, we confess times we have responded with anger, bitterness, and rudeness before compassion. Please forgive us. Would you move our hearts to care about what you care about? Would you move our hearts and our children’s hearts to pray for others before retaliating? Would you give us the self-control Jesus had, the compassion Jesus had, the love Jesus had, even when people were against him. May we be lights that point straight to you, Jesus. In Jesus’ name, amen.

“A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, 

But the  one who is patient calms a quarrel.” Proverbs 15:18

Do not repay evil with evil or insult with insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because to this you were called so that you may inherit a blessing.” 1 Peter 3:9

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Help us be the Moms you Have Called us to be, Today.

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There’s a reason Jesus gave us these words: “Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God and trust also in me.” John 14:1

He knew we would face difficulty.

There’s a reason the Lord told us “Set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” Colossians 3

He knew the world would be chaotic at times.

There’s a reason God told us that He holds all things in His hands: “In his hand are the depths of the earth, and the mountain peaks belong to him…I have engraved you on the palms of my hands.”  Isaiah 49, Psalm 95

He knew that sometimes the world would feel like it’s spinning out of control.

There’s a reason Jesus gave us the command to “love one another.” John 13

He knew there would be times our anger and hurt would try to lead the way.

There’s a reason Jesus told us, “if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.” Matthew 6

He knew that each of us would fall short and need grace from one another. 

There’s a reason Jesus told us that “all things are possible with God.” Mark 10

He knew that sometimes things would seem impossible.

There’s a reason Jesus said, “I am the way and the truth and the life.” John 14 

He knew that we would feel lost and need Him.

There’s a reason Jesus said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” John 8

He knew there would be darkness here, but that even then, we can have hope & walk in the light because He IS the light of the world. 

With Jesus, indeed, all will be well because this isn’t it. With the Lord, is life forever. What hope there is in Jesus. “Very truly I tell you, the one who believes has eternal life.” – Jesus (John 6)

May we fix our eyes on Jesus, today and always, being the lights he has called us to be and trusting him to be the light to guide us. 

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The Beauty in Hiddenness & Loving Our Kids Through Boundaries

As Christmas approaches, may we ponder and reflect on the beautiful gift we have been given in Jesus, just as Mary did.

With Jesus coming into the world in such a humble way as a manger, I am also reminded about these “hidden” people in the Bible who followed Jesus…

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This is my recent article published by ForEveryMom, “Open Your Hands, Mama”:

My son surprised me a few days ago.

My kids’ friends usually end up coming to our house to play. But, a few days ago, our kids really wanted to go to their new friend’s backyard to play.

I know as our kids get older, we need to begin opening our hands more and more.

So, I said they could, but to not go into their house, that they had to stick together, and that they had to come back in thirty minutes since we’re still getting to know them.

I also told them a new rule that I had learned from a mama with a middle schooler and high schooler.

My friend told her kids that if someone says to look at their phone, to look away and ask what they want to show them first because of how some kids try to show inappropriate content (like pornography and other harmful things).

So, before my kids went to their new friend’s backyard, I told them that if the older sister wants to show them something on her phone, to look away.

That might seem overbearing and strict, but I would much prefer to air on that side, than for them to view something harmful.

As they get older and learn who they can trust, that will adjust some, but right now our kids are looking to us to show them how to make wise choices, so I want to do my best to do that.

That doesn’t mean we’ll avoid all difficulty – part of parenthood is dealing with those tough things – but it does mean we can put rules and procedures in place that will help our kids.

After thirty minutes of playing, our kids came back to our yard with their friends and continued playing.

Later on, I asked them how it went. They said they had a great time. Then, my son said that the older sister said to him, “Hey, I want to show you a picture on my phone.” My son said , “Sorry, my mom told me not to look at other people’s phones.”

She said, “Man, your mom is strict.” And his reply melted my heart and will probably last me the year: “No she’s not. She’s the best mom in the world.”

I know our kids don’t always choose wisdom or the right thing to do, so when they do, we sure should enjoy it.

I wasn’t just proud of him for not caring what she thought and for speaking so lovingly about me, but for being trustworthy.

Even though the picture she wanted to show him was probably innocent, he chose wisdom. He chose listening to me. I told him how proud I was of him and how that moment built my trust in him.

Let’s do our best to emphasize open communication and the importance of trust with our kids. To tell them they can talk to us about anything and to always be honest with us.

It doesn’t mean they always will, but when they choose dishonesty, it’s our responsibility to give them natural consequences, and to redirect them. They’re kids – they’re meant to challenge us. But, our role as parents is to continue redirecting them to wisdom, to the Lord, to love – one moment at a time.

That’s our role as parents, isn’t it? To prepare them for the real world, to equip them to choose wisely, and then to open our hands, bit by bit, praying and trusting the Lord, one moment at a time.

Originally published by ForEveryMom. Link below:

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Wherever you are in life and whatever season you’re in, as Christmas comes, I pray that the Lord Jesus would connect with your heart, encourage you, and fill you with HIs awesome love for you.

Merry Christmas!

Life is too short to wallow.

Two nights ago, his two young kids had to go to the hospice unit to see him for the last time. His fight with cancer is coming to an end and he is preparing to see the Lord Jesus. 

My good friend has been sharing her friend’s journey over the last year, and that was one of her recent texts: they’re bringing the kids up to see him for the last time.

Isn’t it easy to wallow in self-pity, in self-centerdness, in “woe is me”?

To get caught up in what our kids are lacking, how they’re annoying us, and to just see the worst?

I’m all about acknowledging our heartache. I’m all about acknowledging difficulty, but once we have felt it, I’m also about letting it go and not sitting and wallowing in it.

Friends, life is too short to wallow. 

We have a certain number of days here, how do we want to spend them?

As I have heard about this husband and father who has spent his life serving our country and following Jesus, and about his recent days, I am quickly brought back to reality. 

To the shortness of this life, to the importance of spending our words and days wisely, to the worth of following Jesus with all we have & loving our families with all we have.

It’s completely normal to get caught up in the frustrations of the everyday. To feel like we’re just trying to keep our heads above water and to want to throw our hands up. To lose our cool with our children who have thrown the fifteenth tantrum. To be done with the monotony, the messes, the loudness.

But, life is too short to wallow. 

If we do, we miss it.

We miss the good things. The beauty that CAN be found in the monotony, the mess, the loud.

This is the thing – as parents, we set the course for our kids. That does not mean we have to be perfect. At all. 

But, to be real, acknowledge tough feelings when we’re having them, and then showing them how to move forward in being “joyful always, praying continually, and giving thanks at all times,” because that’s what Jesus calls us to.

Not to ignore our feelings, but to acknowledge them, and then move forward.

We can do this because our hope is not in this world.

Our hope is in Jesus.

When we look at our kids and immediately want to gripe and be annoyed, Lord, would you give us hearts that see you in our kids instead? Would you give us words of grace to speak to our kids with genuine kindness and love? Would you replace barking attitudes and quick anger with a gentle love that comes only from you by the power of the Holy Spirit?

When we mess up, Lord, thank you that we can show our kids what your beautiful forgiveness looks like by asking for forgiveness from you and our kids, accepting grace , and moving on. Lord, lead us to be the parents you want us to be so we can love you and our families with all our hearts, minds, souls and strength, and so we can bring glory to you. Help us to overflow with gratitude because of you. 

Lord, please be with this family and others who are walking the difficult path of hospice, and Oh Jesus, we pray that you would give them hope and show yourself to each of them, and that they would believe in you and enter into forever with you. 

Lord, help us to number our days that we would gain hearts of wisdom and live fully in your your presence, your peace, your joy. Thank you, Lord. In Jesus’ name, amen. 

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